tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4860961683979427920.post6806514252285076216..comments2017-01-18T21:46:44.505-05:00Comments on ScruffyPumpkinPattyPaws: Some resolution?Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4860961683979427920.post-75294523165110351862017-01-18T21:46:44.505-05:002017-01-18T21:46:44.505-05:00Mike,
Thank you for your comment about Scruffy - ...Mike,<br /><br />Thank you for your comment about Scruffy - he was really one of those beautiful, long-haired guys who never looked "groomed." I'm sorry about your cat. I wish there was something I could say to make you feel better. If it helps, I'm sitting here in tears because I read the post before writing this, and I'm still carrying with me the sorrow of losing Scruffy and the lack of understanding in what universe could the whole thing be fair. If you believe in animal communication, there is real comfort in "talking" to your cat, especially as the end approaches. There are a number of very respected communicators, if you google. I don't think that there's any time limit on grief, or anything that can make losing a cat you loved seem reasonable or normal or anything but awful.<br /><br />Do you have anyone for support that could go with you? Is your vet conscious of his responsibility to make the process less horrible. The only thing that got me through it was that I knew I was saving Scruffy from an ending with pain and sadness for him, and for me. There's an article about what actually happens to cats who are left to "die on their own" - it's horrifying. (It's somewhere in the last couple of posts here.) I couldn't have allowed him to "go" on his own. I needed to be there to say goodbye and to hold him for the last time. <br /><br />You need to do whatever makes you feel however much better it can. My vet NEVER has anything on top of his awful stainless table. I brought a nice soft, fresh towel for Scruffy to lay on before they gave him the first shot. So, I guess - never thought about this before - his last memories were of laying on the softness, and my tears dropping on his fur. Not a bad thing, I guess.<br /><br />If there's anything I do to be helpful to you, Mike, please let me know. Otherwise, know that there are a multitude of us out here, knowing what you're going through, and wishing you peace and ultimately acceptance. (I haven't gotten there, after going on five years. I still cry every time I think of Scruffy's name, or see his picture on my computer. Some of us adjust more slowly than others.........)<br /><br />You and your kitty are in my heart, and in my prayers.<br /><br />lyndaScruffyetc.https://www.blogger.com/profile/03407377672275155571noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4860961683979427920.post-40485188121797297542017-01-18T01:52:51.460-05:002017-01-18T01:52:51.460-05:00I'm sorry you went through that. My cat is in...I'm sorry you went through that. My cat is in really bad shape now and my heart is just breaking. I don't handle this stuff well and I wish I had the courage you went through with Scruffy. He was a beautiful cat.Mikehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04961435740207923936noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4860961683979427920.post-21638142269434541652012-04-21T23:56:07.577-04:002012-04-21T23:56:07.577-04:00Just read this. It's beautiful... as beautiful...Just read this. It's beautiful... as beautiful as your post on FDMB tonight. Sending you thanks for the insight and wonderful writing and many hugs.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4860961683979427920.post-12274196360863459962012-03-28T22:38:01.687-04:002012-03-28T22:38:01.687-04:00I just wanted you to know that you are in my thoug...I just wanted you to know that you are in my thoughts and prayers. Sending you many hugs.<br />AllieAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4860961683979427920.post-88618205993389141082012-03-19T17:09:28.664-04:002012-03-19T17:09:28.664-04:00you are such a wonderful writer. I am glad L was a...you are such a wonderful writer. I am glad L was able to help and seems as though some healing has taken place. you are a good caring person with a lot of love to give. I told cal and twinkie that the fluids were a gift from Scruffy and this was the first time Twink sat still for the entire treatment.<br />hugs and love to you my frienddianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01985056938390908339noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4860961683979427920.post-87429411723592703332012-03-19T11:04:10.105-04:002012-03-19T11:04:10.105-04:00So relate to the caretaker part. And if you are no...So relate to the caretaker part. And if you are not ready to say it and mean it, that is ok. I don't think time moves for them the same way it does for us. I wish I could be more eloquent but am crying too hard at the moment. Love you, Allie & NewkittyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com